Dazed and Confused...

I'm not entirely sure what/how to write in this sometimes. Not in the technical sense, but in the social sense. Several of my friends are also RL friends, and occasionally that presents a sticky problem. It isn't even a secret-keeping thing - if there's something secret I have to ruminate about I'll either post it under private or write it down in my paper journal. What it is is a matter of interpretation and appearances - I don't want anyone to assume that things that I write here are meant to be manipulative in any way. On the one hand, everything is going to manipulate to some degree (one of the prevailing ideas behind memes) and anything read will have an emotional response (or at least a mental one). But what I'm worried about is a matter of *intention*, rather than result. I don't intend to use this journal to manipulate anyone in a malicious way, or as a front to shield myself.

I've been pondering the issue quite a bit over the last year or so when there were suddenly people on my journal that I saw everyday and were going to read and be effected by what I wrote. It's not at *all* that I don't want them to be there, I adore them and love this forum. I just want to make it clear, I suppose, to everyone, really (because this could as easily be an issue w/ OL friends as well) that if I'm writing something in here it's to ponder, work out thoughts, maybe get advice (or congratulations, or hugs, or support), but not to make a pointed message at anyone through this medium instead of talking to them face to face.

What I do want is to release myself from feeling like I have to censor what I say. (No one but me has laid that edict on me, mind you. It's pretty much been my struggle between ethics and rights.)

I have two choices in the matter.
1. I can filter posts so that all of my OL friends can see the entry(s?) on occasion, but the people I may or may not be writing about can't,

Or

2. I can just post whatever the hell I want and not censor myself just because I might be worried about who would or wouldn't read it. One thing my mom always told me when I was growing up was never write anything (ostensibly in a journal) that I wouldn't want her to read. It stuck with me (ingrained over time), and I still find it difficult sometimes to write what wouldn't be entirely socially acceptable.

Option 1 just plain feels like lying to others, and option 0 (not posting re: issues, at all) feels like I'm lying to or stifling myself.

So, in a search for advice - what would you all do in that kind of a situation?